Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Meet Me Halfway

Almost three weeks ago now, I went out with one of my best friends, Megs, to the bar for her friend's birthday party. I don't do very well with meeting new people and I tend to be quite quiet and uncomfortable until they open up to me. Maybe it's a trust issue I didn't know I had, or some underlying problem I with my father (not likely!). I don't know what it is but that's how I am. Once they open up and i feel comfortable around them, I don't shut up. Needless to say, I was quite nervous about meeting all of Megs' friends but excited too because I had heard so much about them and even though she was going to be the only one I knew, I really wanted to go (which was very unusual now that I think about it).

I met a boy. His name is James for all intents and purposes and he is really good friends with Megs. He bought me drinks all night, had his arm around me, and even walked me to my car at the end. He was funny, flirty, and a wee bit dangerous.

I Facebook friend requested him. He accepted.
I Facebook messaged him and invited him to my birthday party the following week.
He asked if Megs and I were going to the bar that week again and we did.

Then more flirting, more drink purchases, and more awkward moments (this time involving a security guard, James, and my face turning the colour of a tomato...)

The next week?
I Facebook messaged him and gave him my cell number.
We text messaged.
He came to my birthday party and met my friends.
He bought me drinks and had his arm around me.
He told my friend he was going to ask me out because he knew that I liked him.

Nothing. Not a single peep from Mr. James. It's been three days.

I am a very patient person and I think that three days is plenty of time to pick up a cell phone and call me. In fact, I think I'm quite the catch for Mr. James over here but if he doesn't want to make any effort this time, I know I sure as hell won't be playing the role of Desperado. I think we have great chemistry, and yes, one of the first things I heard him say was that he hasn't slept with enough women. Megs has told me too that he is an "open" kind of guy. Well, I'm an all or nothing kind of girl. Meet me halfway?

Am I asking for too much here? I don't want to initiate EVERYTHING. I sure don't want to come off as desperate because I'm not. I know that I don't need a man to be happy (I've survived 21 years without one just fine, thank you.) but sometimes it sure would be nice.

I really hate this. I'm constantly checking my phone to see if he's called or messaged me and I feel pathetic! This isn't me at all.

You want to know what's really bad? I've even downloaded some of the bands he likes. Seriously. Just meet me halfway...


Nik said...

"I don't want to initiate EVERYTHING." Sweetie, you shouldn't have to initiate ANYTHING. (Ur gonna hate me.) This guy is not into you. He is a moron because you are an intelligent, wonderful person . . . and he should be into you. But he's not. Trust me. I've been here TONS.

"I really hate this. I'm constantly checking my phone to see if he's called or messaged me and I feel pathetic!"

OMG! I know! That is the worst feeling in the entire world. I'm really not trying to promote my blog . . . but read this k? http://serendipi-tea.blogspot.com/2009/11/hes-just-not-that-into-me.html

You are totally NORMAL and not pathetic at all chica! Just take it one day at a time . . . and DON'T TEXT HIM OR FB MESSAGE HIM!!!

OK this was a long comment . . . I just love your blog and I think you are so brave write exactly how you feel and what you are going through. Don't change for anyone k! ;-) Nik

The Grasshopper said...

thanks Nik :) I watched that movie over the weekend, and I totally saw that coming. Thanks for your support.. I'm done with him!

Nik said...

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!